Good posts guys, thanks for sharing. I just feel for the past year or two I have become some kind of "predictable" member. They think they know what I want, they dont answer phones, and my sister only calls me when she needs something. (help with jkids or a job doing) I think the only way I can get change is to become more independent of them, times are hard and sure I get the odd meal at my mothers house and lend the odd 20 bucks, but just by doing this it feels like they own me and I have no status among my immediate family. When they are in a bad mood im the release, if I release on them im been "abusive."