About letting go...I think it's something reflective. Many years after my horrible break-up, I tend to feel the pain of it to this day. Is it because I still love him? Not really. I guess it's a pride thing. I look at "letting go" as something you acknowledge and actually appreciate. Learn what happened from that experience. Face the things you did wrong and remember the things they did wrong. I hate the whole game thing. If men would just stop fooling themselves (yes, us chicks KNOW what you're doing. We're not fooled), and go ahead and BE insecure they would go a long way. You can still be insecure and carry yourself like you're worth something. You don't have to talk out of your ass. You don't have to have a certain pose or persona. Just have some humor, intelligence and compassion and you'll be hounded by women day in and day out. Mind you, I'm talking about women here...not girls who go for a guy for social standing. Not gold diggers or just plain ol' crazies that are totally dependent on others instead of themselves making them too clingy. Anyway, feel the hurt and feel the pain. Just remember, each heartache gets worse as time goes on. Find things about yourself that you might want to improve. Not for women but for yourself. What changes you make will show. Who knows? A girl you might know could be someone of more significance later on.