The search For the One : Road seems too long

[Shoma]

So unlike some(or most) of you all in the 1emu, one nightys NEVER intrigued me. I mean sure when i was young it was more of a religious thing but now that im bit more jaded, im still just not keen on the whole casual sex thing.

Now guys before you take my "man card" (joke from my friend) Im just saying im more of a guy who loves a women who he can just chill with. Sex is possible i guess depending on if the woman is worth it but Im like 22.

So far, its been a huge chore fining someone who relates mentally, spirituality or even interests-wise, nothing has added up.

My status update kinda relates what i mean in a poetic way.

Bottom line, for someone who doesn't bang the hot chick because she's hot(or drunk enough) It seems i cant find that right formula.

Im messing with this girl right now, for reasons just to, disengage the reality of it all momentarily but it shows a possible trend of me contradicting my values in the future..ehhh. I dunno. I would have thought this would be something that happens your first or second divorce but i noticed it has been affecting me subconsciously.

[Bambi]

_{Don't put so much effort into finding the one, you might miss her while holding onto the wrong one.}

[Skythe]

Chloroform is a great pick up line.

[solidius23]

there is no "one" there are usually many till you find someone you can tolerate for a longer period of time

[Bambi]

there is no "one" there are usually many till you find someone you can tolerate for a longer period of time

 

Yeah, exactly!

[Krosigrim]

In a bad way of looking at it... yes

 

There are sooo many people out there, so many differences. Youll see combinations of everything. The "one" would really refer to that "perfect" blend of characteristics that mesh with your own. The one would refer to both of you loving each other, in spite of yourselves.

 

I poured much love into each relationship, though I do not love them that way anymore. I still care about them, care that they are doing well... thats about it. Life is a long road looking forward, but when you look back it looks too short. Dont waste your time too much, but dont rush it either. Reiterating what Bambi said.

_{Don't put so much effort into finding the one, you might miss her while holding onto the wrong one.}

Because man, life happens most randomly.

[emsley]

So unlike some(or most) of you all in the 1emu, one nightys NEVER intrigued me. I mean sure when i was young it was more of a religious thing but now that im bit more jaded, im still just not keen on the whole casual sex thing.

Now guys before you take my "man card" (joke from my friend) Im just saying im more of a guy who loves a women who he can just chill with. Sex is possible i guess depending on if the woman is worth it but Im like 22.

So far, its been a huge chore fining someone who relates mentally, spirituality or even interests-wise, nothing has added up.

My status update kinda relates what i mean in a poetic way.

Bottom line, for someone who doesn't bang the hot chick because she's hot(or drunk enough) It seems i cant find that right formula.

Im messing with this girl right now, for reasons just to, disengage the reality of it all momentarily but it shows a possible trend of me contradicting my values in the future..ehhh. I dunno. I would have thought this would be something that happens your first or second divorce but i noticed it has been affecting me subconsciously.

 

 

Step 1: Stop over reading/thinking. Its realllllllly bad for you. I mean REALLY bad for!!

 

Step 2: If you are not exercising - you should be.

 

Step 3: Have total cut offs from the net. Stop taking things so... whats the word ? "exact" nothing is exact.

 

My friend is a pc dweller (i am but i have brakes) he is the single most negatised guy i have ever met. He infects you with it, and nothing changes him. Its pathetic. Really pathetic.

 

Dont count on a woman for happiness its a huge mistake.

Count on your self the woman will come later.

[Krosigrim]

BAM

[Shoma]

So unlike some(or most) of you all in the 1emu, one nightys NEVER intrigued me. I mean sure when i was young it was more of a religious thing but now that im bit more jaded, im still just not keen on the whole casual sex thing.

Now guys before you take my "man card" (joke from my friend) Im just saying im more of a guy who loves a women who he can just chill with. Sex is possible i guess depending on if the woman is worth it but Im like 22.

So far, its been a huge chore fining someone who relates mentally, spirituality or even interests-wise, nothing has added up.

My status update kinda relates what i mean in a poetic way.

Bottom line, for someone who doesn't bang the hot chick because she's hot(or drunk enough) It seems i cant find that right formula.

Im messing with this girl right now, for reasons just to, disengage the reality of it all momentarily but it shows a possible trend of me contradicting my values in the future..ehhh. I dunno. I would have thought this would be something that happens your first or second divorce but i noticed it has been affecting me subconsciously.

 

 

Step 1: Stop over reading/thinking. Its realllllllly bad for you. I mean REALLY bad for!!

 

Step 2: If you are not exercising - you should be.

 

Step 3: Have total cut offs from the net. Stop taking things so... whats the word ? "exact" nothing is exact.

 

My friend is a pc dweller (i am but i have brakes) he is the single most negatised guy i have ever met. He infects you with it, and nothing changes him. Its pathetic. Really pathetic.

 

Dont count on a woman for happiness its a huge mistake.

Count on your self the woman will come later.

 

1. I do think a lot, friends told me this

2.I go on and off, i'm off right now - I'll get back on see if it changes something

3. I already do this occasionally, i also do cut offs from television and mostly anything with a screen(except my phone).

 

Sorry to hear about your friend, maybe he needs a workout buddy. I'm not sure if you're trying to relate him to me .

 

I agree with your last statement, I guess I just woulda thought I would of had that part locked in by now - ya know the "pre-destined future" we all have in our minds.

 

Like Bambi and Solid pointed out I remember speaking about my friend about this; we were saying that there is no "one" but at best you'll get an 85%. Kinda jaded - yes but it makes sense. lol

[emsley]

Sorry to hear about your friend, maybe he needs a workout buddy. I'm not sure if you're trying to relate him to me .

 

No!!!!

He is the eternal negatist!

If you over think and don't socialise you are missing out on all the best things in life - my friend wont do that unless its strictly under his terms. (lame ass boring bullshit)

What im doing is giving you a heads up warning that over thinking can lead to been so negatised you miss the obvious joys in life!

Push boundaries with your joy and lead!!

Do not let negative thought hold you back!

[Sybarite Paladin AxL]

You know, I used to do that, but then I stopped caring and got jaded. Now I just bang whatever good looking chic I find. I'd rather stick my dick in a blender then listen to most 'em talk anyway. Same ol' bullshit anyway. I guess I kinda went the other way but I'm simply having too much fun otherwise. Once you find your groove, they're like everywhere. What I did start valuing more was my own enjoyment over anyone else's and my closer friends. And I love it. I subscribe to hedonism and over-indulgence now, and so far it's been great.