Part II: My love and hate relationship with PORNO.

[Alpha]

Part I of my thoughts on Porno is here.

 

I'm not sure if I ever imagined a day that so much porn would be widely accessible and easy to find, watch, and attain for free. In many ways, I feel like it's helped a lot of people -- especially men -- as it is almost equivalent to a vibrator for a man. In a sense, it simply furthers the male orgasm. However, for many of my friends, I have found it's almost a daily/weekly ritual for them to watch at least a few hours of porn a week.

 

The problem I have with porn is that it works on a progression system. Most heterosexual men will simply just get off the vaginal licking at first. But soon enough, they'll further it by watching vaginal penetration. And then once that gets old, some will move on to anal penetration (of the woman). And finally, they then enter this entirely new atmosphere of porn that racks up intensity (s&m, orgies, bodily fluid craziness, etc.). The human brain is designed to get bored of things quickly, so IMO -- this is a natural process, but also a very destructive process.

 

The more insensitive the man becomes to various types of porn, the more I worry it will seep into their real relationships and what they will need to get off from their partners. How long will he even be able to last?

 

The other MAJOR problem I see with porn is that it's created a whole new generation of men who are SATISFIED with porn and not going out and finding real physical women. This fosters more men who IMO will be introverted, stay-at-home basement men on a Friday night, who have no idea how to talk or properly interact with a woman. What you have is the DEATH of the ALPHA Male and a surge of BETA Males masturbating to the remaining ALPHA's fucking the women.

 

I won't lie. I watch porno. Sure I get off on it like the rest of the men on this planet, but I hate it -- for the residual images it leaves in my mind and it's effects. No, I don't watch crazy porn and probably will get off just fine with the "basic" stuff. But I do know what will happen if I become an addict, which many men (would love to know the numbers one day!!) I'm almost certain have become. Porno should be an absolute last resort for a man as a method of release. Instead, they should use their hunger for sex as motivation to go outside and meet a real woman.

[emsley]

Pretty much nailed the entire problem.

 

If I go a few days without jacking off I get the horn, checking out women i normally wouldnt aim for.

So anyway if you dont get with a chick or lifes too busy or pickings are slim, there is no way in hell im not gonna bust a nut.

I can not walk round horny as fuck, its annoying.

My pal is in his late 40's and he simply says "fuck it i have porn" and thats him.

 

One of the main reasons in my opinion that porn is used so much, is that its getting harder (lol) for guys to pull women, one night stands or long term. Western women have way too much power. As I've got older i can quickly filter out women who match up or dont match up and if i can be arsed making my moves. I mean what, its been nearly a year for me now and its the longest i have gone.

But i have so much on my plate at the moment and my mind is that busy that getting a partner is way down on my list.

 

I knocked back an 18 year old hottie recently, too close for comfort, my pal is her dad and im just like, fuck that...

I got an offer from a till girl, but she is deaf, no seriously she is deaf. And I went to make a move and she knew I was gonna do it and she got nervous so i backed off. There is this chick that takes her kids to school, past my house twice a day and she is pretty, i think all id have to do is pretend to be working in the garden and just say hi and that would roll quite easily.

But again older and wiser, two kids is a lot of work........

 

your right about the image burning its way in to the brain, after I jack off i go BLURGH!

hahahaha - fucking mad.

[Alpha]

Pretty much nailed the entire problem.

 

If I go a few days without jacking off I get the horn, checking out women i normally wouldnt aim for.

So anyway if you dont get with a chick or lifes too busy or pickings are slim, there is no way in hell im not gonna bust a nut.

I can not walk round horny as fuck, its annoying.

My pal is in his late 40's and he simply says "fuck it i have porn" and thats him.

 

One of the main reasons in my opinion that porn is used so much, is that its getting harder (lol) for guys to pull women, one night stands or long term. Western women have way too much power. As I've got older i can quickly filter out women who match up or dont match up and if i can be arsed making my moves. I mean what, its been nearly a year for me now and its the longest i have gone.

But i have so much on my plate at the moment and my mind is that busy that getting a partner is way down on my list.

 

I knocked back an 18 year old hottie recently, too close for comfort, my pal is her dad and im just like, fuck that...

I got an offer from a till girl, but she is deaf, no seriously she is deaf. And I went to make a move and she knew I was gonna do it and she got nervous so i backed off. There is this chick that takes her kids to school, past my house twice a day and she is pretty, i think all id have to do is pretend to be working in the garden and just say hi and that would roll quite easily.

But again older and wiser, two kids is a lot of work........

 

your right about the image burning its way in to the brain, after I jack off i go BLURGH!

hahahaha - fucking mad.

Indeed. Walking around horny is a nightmare.

 

Hmm.... men are watching porn because it's harder to get a real woman?

OR men can't get real women and therefore watch porn?

 

It's a question that can't be answered unless a cause and effect study is done.

 

Congrats on sleeping with the 18-year old hottie .... did the pops find out?

 

Deaf girl? Where and how did you find her? Do you know sign language?

 

I would stay away from the woman with kids. Last thing you need are step children ....

 

And yes, the residual porn that's burned in the head is like a terrible aftertaste. I don't want to even think about it after "the release", but sometimes you ask yourself... "WTF, did I just watch?"

[emsley]

And yes, the residual porn that's burned in the head is like a terrible aftertaste. I don't want to even think about it after "the release", but sometimes you ask yourself... "WTF, did I just watch?"

 

Jerk off to porn, pick up bucket and barf.

There are no woman round my local area I can be bothered with, I dont mean to sound arrogant but they ain't exactly a catch. I'm too busy concentrating on sorting my stuff out for my son, going through court now for access its not very good.

I'd like a new bird to be honest, I miss making them laugh and teasing the shit out of them.

Edited March 29, 2013 by emsley

[Bambi]

I don't have an opinion on porn. I don't hate it but I don't love it either.

 

Most of my avatars are pornographic. If it keeps guys from going out to rape or worse I'd buy them porn. Seems like a simple answer.

[Cominus]

That's really my dilemma. Its one of those at a how early age did you find porn and to watch extent did you start watching it?

 

You're right on the part about watching too much porn/jerking it will make you lose your drive to seek out women, I know because every time I do I sorta lose my motivation to work out or even go out sometimes, but it's a bit different when you watch porn and you don't jerk it. You do stimulate yourself but you don't do it to the extent that you get some sort of euphoria out of it like cumming.

 

I know when i used to work at a strip club I would eventually stop getting boners but it did give me a real appreciation for real breasts. I guess you could say it made me "hornier" for a more natural body as that would become more of my "fantasy". You still need the human touch/interaction. The internet provides a way to vent but you don't get any real feedback because when you leave and you decide to interact with the real world people are much different and can sometimes be less forgiving possibly making a person introverted and such. :\

[Alpha]

That's really my dilemma. Its one of those at a how early age did you find porn and to watch extent did you start watching it?

 

You're right on the part about watching too much porn/jerking it will make you lose your drive to seek out women, I know because every time I do I sorta lose my motivation to work out or even go out sometimes, but it's a bit different when you watch porn and you don't jerk it. You do stimulate yourself but you don't do it to the extent that you get some sort of euphoria out of it like cumming.

 

I know when i used to work at a strip club I would eventually stop getting boners but it did give me a real appreciation for real breasts. I guess you could say it made me "hornier" for a more natural body as that would become more of my "fantasy". You still need the human touch/interaction. The internet provides a way to vent but you don't get any real feedback because when you leave and you decide to interact with the real world people are much different and can sometimes be less forgiving possibly making a person introverted and such. :\

 

Well said. The problem is that there will be devices soon in the future to simulate sex (already exist in its very mechanical forms), including 3D sex. You have this entire new generation of men who grow up on pornography literally being 2 clicks away -- all for free and in HD video. We didn't even have video at all when I first started looking at porn... it was just pictures and lots of searching ...

[Cominus]

Well said. The problem is that there will be devices soon in the future to simulate sex (already exist in its very mechanical forms), including 3D sex. You have this entire new generation of men who grow up on pornography literally being 2 clicks away -- all for free and in HD video. We didn't even have video at all when I first started looking at porn... it was just pictures and lots of searching ...

 

Lol i like how you said just pictures and lots of searching.

 

I guess that's the latest rave in anime, there's one that I just finished watching "eve no jikan" and it's basically about some dude that stumbles into a cafe and his interaction with the people there, keep in mind that it's 6 episodes and all the people are the same, he slowly finds out that everybody there is an android and even finds his going in there. (androids usually have a glowing ring above their heads indicating that they are androids) but in there they act like humans and in a way depict free will.

 

The reason I bring this up is that I read on one of my favorite facebook pages the "i fucking love science" one in which scientists have recently developed an AI system with the cognitive recognition of a 4 year old. Pretty fascinating if you asked me, but it really comes down to, where will humans stop trying to make something inanimate slowly become real. Some like sex dolls and others like something you just want to love and show affection to.

 

I dont think you ever watch anime but if you ever decide to have a closer in-depth to what it is I was just talking about there that really arouse my intellect when it comes to science fiction and I guess would surely maybe not soon become a reality. Armitage III (what if cyborgs became a reality) Chobits (what if people fell in love with their androids) Eve No Jikan (what if androids could think outside of their parameters "free will")

[Alpha]

 

Well said. The problem is that there will be devices soon in the future to simulate sex (already exist in its very mechanical forms), including 3D sex. You have this entire new generation of men who grow up on pornography literally being 2 clicks away -- all for free and in HD video. We didn't even have video at all when I first started looking at porn... it was just pictures and lots of searching ...

 

Lol i like how you said just pictures and lots of searching.

 

I guess that's the latest rave in anime, there's one that I just finished watching "eve no jikan" and it's basically about some dude that stumbles into a cafe and his interaction with the people there, keep in mind that it's 6 episodes and all the people are the same, he slowly finds out that everybody there is an android and even finds his going in there. (androids usually have a glowing ring above their heads indicating that they are androids) but in there they act like humans and in a way depict free will.

 

The reason I bring this up is that I read on one of my favorite facebook pages the "i fucking love science" one in which scientists have recently developed an AI system with the cognitive recognition of a 4 year old. Pretty fascinating if you asked me, but it really comes down to, where will humans stop trying to make something inanimate slowly become real. Some like sex dolls and others like something you just want to love and show affection to.

 

I dont think you ever watch anime but if you ever decide to have a closer in-depth to what it is I was just talking about there that really arouse my intellect when it comes to science fiction and I guess would surely maybe not soon become a reality. Armitage III (what if cyborgs became a reality) Chobits (what if people fell in love with their androids) Eve No Jikan (what if androids could think outside of their parameters "free will")

 

That's quite philosophical anime. For some reason I just imagine watching a bunch of funky cartoon explosions, freaky sex, or Dragon Ball when I think about anime .

 

Humans have been trying to make sex dolls real since the 60's. Others who just need unconditional affection (not sex), will buy a dog or cat. The problem is like I said -- I believe it's too easy to be satisfied with all the virtual bullshit. You need a level of testosterone to want to go out and talk to girls. We're built to reproduce... all you got to do is ask yourself what you feel like doing after you've jacked off. Do you still find the woman attractive? Do you still love her? Do you still love your job? Or does everything just feel like you're doing it for the wrong reasons? That reminds me of something else I worry of -- humans who live their entire lives actually through their hormones without knowing it.